My wife is currently on duty in the hospital. Tomorrow, after her duty we will go to the province and spend our first Christmas after the wedding. Tomorrow is also a month after our wedding; and my parents' 31st wedding anniversary as well. Unfortunately, we will be on the road all day.
We were supposed to leave today, but my wife couldn't leave with us. She asked me to wait for her. Although I have to drive back on the 26th, I obliged.
Tonight, I am more inclined to stay in Manila. But we have to meet his father after he missed the wedding; and she wants to spend the Christmas with her family too. For some reasons, I obliged.
Oh well, some things do change.... Especially when you get married...
Saturday, December 23, 2006
Friday, October 13, 2006
Wedding Jitters 3
It's just barely 1.5 months before our wedding day, and here I am still trying to figure out the remaining expenses that I have to pay for. So this is what is getting married all about.
Tomorrow, we will have our church interview. I also have to ask my fiancee to get her CENOMAR from the government agency since I cannot afford to be out next week. We haven't visited the priest that we asked to officiate our wedding; we still have to get the formal names of the guests that we want to invite. The list is endless.
My fiancee and I were hoping that we could cancel the whole thing until next year, but I realized that 2 of my aunties, living overseas, delayed some activities so that they can come.
Haaay... This endeavor is getting into my nerves....
The good thing is that I have a purpose. My fiancee and I just want this wedding to be completed, nothing more. We just want to settle down.
Tomorrow, we will have our church interview. I also have to ask my fiancee to get her CENOMAR from the government agency since I cannot afford to be out next week. We haven't visited the priest that we asked to officiate our wedding; we still have to get the formal names of the guests that we want to invite. The list is endless.
My fiancee and I were hoping that we could cancel the whole thing until next year, but I realized that 2 of my aunties, living overseas, delayed some activities so that they can come.
Haaay... This endeavor is getting into my nerves....
The good thing is that I have a purpose. My fiancee and I just want this wedding to be completed, nothing more. We just want to settle down.
Saturday, September 30, 2006
Monday, September 11, 2006
Wedding Jitters
We don't have wedding coordinator.... We are not using PertCPM chart in monitoring the wedding preparation... Hell! We don't even know what we are missing since this is the first time we are getting married!!
Lately, it's getting into my nerves - we still need to select the wedding ring; we haven't decided yet what the final number of guests is; we are not sure if we are going to have a 6-pair or 4-pair sponsor, we don't have the invitations printed yet since we haven't finalized the list of entourage yet, and many more!
But I find it exciting (though my partner would say otherwise) that we are doing the preparation ourselves, albeit slowly. But it's fun and proud to say that we are preparing our very own first wedding!!
Lately, it's getting into my nerves - we still need to select the wedding ring; we haven't decided yet what the final number of guests is; we are not sure if we are going to have a 6-pair or 4-pair sponsor, we don't have the invitations printed yet since we haven't finalized the list of entourage yet, and many more!
But I find it exciting (though my partner would say otherwise) that we are doing the preparation ourselves, albeit slowly. But it's fun and proud to say that we are preparing our very own first wedding!!
Saturday, April 22, 2006
PMS...
PMS - Premenstrual Syndrome
MB - Monthly Bwisita
RMS - Regina Pulares Syndrome
The last 2 were from my bestfriend back in the province.
According to the US Department of Health and Services (http://www.4woman.gov/faq/pms.htm) - "Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is a group of symptoms related to the menstrual cycle. PMS symptoms occur in the week or two weeks before your period (menstruation or monthly bleeding). The symptoms usually go away after your period starts. PMS may interfere with your normal activities at home, school, or work. Menopause, when monthly periods stop, brings an end to PMS.
The causes of PMS are not yet clear. Some women may be more sensitive than others to changing hormone levels during the menstrual cycle. Stress does not seem to cause PMS, but may make it worse. PMS can affect menstruating women of any age.
PMS often includes both physical and emotional symptoms. Diagnosis of PMS is usually based on your symptoms, when they occur, and how much they affect your life. "
Whatever you call it, it's an event that a married husband can never hide. It was like the Tsunami last year, running away was futile! The survivors simply hanged on to anything, hoping that they would survive. Some did, some didn't.....
I am not married yet, not yet. Nevertheless, I have seen this several times with my fiancee. If I wasn't aware of this syndrome, we would always end up in a fight. But since I am aware (she would admit after giving me a hard time), I just ignore the symptoms and hold on to my precious patience. Somebody has to give in, especially if you love the person.
Call me a martyr or whatever, but I don't find any reason to pick-up a fight when I am up against biological reason. It's not simply worth it. Instead, I embrace it! I value it! It means life! That's what makes my future partner complete!
MB - Monthly Bwisita
RMS - Regina Pulares Syndrome
The last 2 were from my bestfriend back in the province.
According to the US Department of Health and Services (http://www.4woman.gov/faq/pms.htm) - "Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is a group of symptoms related to the menstrual cycle. PMS symptoms occur in the week or two weeks before your period (menstruation or monthly bleeding). The symptoms usually go away after your period starts. PMS may interfere with your normal activities at home, school, or work. Menopause, when monthly periods stop, brings an end to PMS.
The causes of PMS are not yet clear. Some women may be more sensitive than others to changing hormone levels during the menstrual cycle. Stress does not seem to cause PMS, but may make it worse. PMS can affect menstruating women of any age.
PMS often includes both physical and emotional symptoms. Diagnosis of PMS is usually based on your symptoms, when they occur, and how much they affect your life. "
Whatever you call it, it's an event that a married husband can never hide. It was like the Tsunami last year, running away was futile! The survivors simply hanged on to anything, hoping that they would survive. Some did, some didn't.....
I am not married yet, not yet. Nevertheless, I have seen this several times with my fiancee. If I wasn't aware of this syndrome, we would always end up in a fight. But since I am aware (she would admit after giving me a hard time), I just ignore the symptoms and hold on to my precious patience. Somebody has to give in, especially if you love the person.
Call me a martyr or whatever, but I don't find any reason to pick-up a fight when I am up against biological reason. It's not simply worth it. Instead, I embrace it! I value it! It means life! That's what makes my future partner complete!
Ambush!!!
Yesterday, my fiancee called me around 1:45pm in the office. She mentioned that she was about to take a shower and go home. I was suprised because the last time we discussed her schedule, she was supposed to go home later in the afternoon. She was telling me about her toxic experience the night before. I just listened. For no apparent reason, she asked, "so what are your plans tonight?" I told her that I am meeting my parents and my sister in Ayala Center and treat them out. She knew about this earlier this week, so it wasn't a big deal for me repeating it again.
And this is when the monthly battle begun.
Warning shot! She asked me why I didn't ask her to join since she's leaving earlier than expected. She explained that the reason why she called, she was expecting me to ask her to join the family day.
Incoming!!! Take cover! I explained that there's no way for me to know that she's leaving early. In any case, I asked her to join us. She could join us anytime. She started whining how insensitive I was and this wasn't the first time that I didn't ask her out without her informing me first that she's available. And everytime I explained that there's no way for me to know her schedule, she would insist that I should know.
It's not over yet, there's always a second wave attack!! She started calling me names that came from nowhere! For some reason, she just made me the worst and most insensitive man in the world! And this time, I didn't have anything to say. I was trying to figure out where the outburst came from! Before she hanged up, she called me the worst name that I could hear from somebody very close to me.
Recovery!! Take everything that is left! Prepare for another assault! After she hanged up, I was amazed. It was a very deliberate conversation. It seems to me that it was completely planned before she called. There must be wrong, so I thought.
When I was about to leave the office, I tried calling her several times. She didn't answer. When I was near Ayala Center, I called again. This time she answered. Her tone was different now, but still trying to sound angry.
Enemy on sight!! She tried again the same thing - that I wasn't sensitive and I wasn't really planning of asking her to join our family date. She went on for another 60 seconds or so. I just let her be.
Counter-Attack!!! "Are you having your period again? It's just the right time for your period." That's the statement that come out from my mouth. She denied at first. But this time, she toned down. So I asked her if I have to bear this kind of conversation with her on a monthly basis. She was trying to dodge the question, I didn't give her a chance.
Go for the kill!!! Her phone is defective, the line was full of static. I told her that I want to hang up since I am racking up airtime minutes but I am not getting any good conversation due to the line quality. And the line went silent, no static, no interference. She said, "no! Not yet! I still want to talk to you!" I said, paghuna ko habo mo makiisturyahan sa akun? She laughed... So I asked her again if we are going to do this exercise every month. She replied, mayad ngani mabuut ka. It wasn't the answer I was looking for so I asked her again with the same question.
Dili man.. Ikaw pano! And she apologized. I replied back, nag-sorry ka na pero bagan next month ma-sorry ka na naman. Bagan habang buhay ini na may monthly encounter kita!
Before we hanged up, I was already teasing her. She was very apologetic and embarrassed (she doesn't want to hear her bloopers all over again). Oh well, I had a good laugh afterwards.
DISCLAIMER: This tactic is not applicable when the argument has nothing to do with the female's monthly event. When that happens, simply stand there and take the hit. You can run, but you can never hide against the wrath of the female species!
And this is when the monthly battle begun.
Warning shot! She asked me why I didn't ask her to join since she's leaving earlier than expected. She explained that the reason why she called, she was expecting me to ask her to join the family day.
Incoming!!! Take cover! I explained that there's no way for me to know that she's leaving early. In any case, I asked her to join us. She could join us anytime. She started whining how insensitive I was and this wasn't the first time that I didn't ask her out without her informing me first that she's available. And everytime I explained that there's no way for me to know her schedule, she would insist that I should know.
It's not over yet, there's always a second wave attack!! She started calling me names that came from nowhere! For some reason, she just made me the worst and most insensitive man in the world! And this time, I didn't have anything to say. I was trying to figure out where the outburst came from! Before she hanged up, she called me the worst name that I could hear from somebody very close to me.
Recovery!! Take everything that is left! Prepare for another assault! After she hanged up, I was amazed. It was a very deliberate conversation. It seems to me that it was completely planned before she called. There must be wrong, so I thought.
When I was about to leave the office, I tried calling her several times. She didn't answer. When I was near Ayala Center, I called again. This time she answered. Her tone was different now, but still trying to sound angry.
Enemy on sight!! She tried again the same thing - that I wasn't sensitive and I wasn't really planning of asking her to join our family date. She went on for another 60 seconds or so. I just let her be.
Counter-Attack!!! "Are you having your period again? It's just the right time for your period." That's the statement that come out from my mouth. She denied at first. But this time, she toned down. So I asked her if I have to bear this kind of conversation with her on a monthly basis. She was trying to dodge the question, I didn't give her a chance.
Go for the kill!!! Her phone is defective, the line was full of static. I told her that I want to hang up since I am racking up airtime minutes but I am not getting any good conversation due to the line quality. And the line went silent, no static, no interference. She said, "no! Not yet! I still want to talk to you!" I said, paghuna ko habo mo makiisturyahan sa akun? She laughed... So I asked her again if we are going to do this exercise every month. She replied, mayad ngani mabuut ka. It wasn't the answer I was looking for so I asked her again with the same question.
Dili man.. Ikaw pano! And she apologized. I replied back, nag-sorry ka na pero bagan next month ma-sorry ka na naman. Bagan habang buhay ini na may monthly encounter kita!
Before we hanged up, I was already teasing her. She was very apologetic and embarrassed (she doesn't want to hear her bloopers all over again). Oh well, I had a good laugh afterwards.
DISCLAIMER: This tactic is not applicable when the argument has nothing to do with the female's monthly event. When that happens, simply stand there and take the hit. You can run, but you can never hide against the wrath of the female species!
Monday, April 17, 2006
Buying a house...
I just paid for the reservation of the condo unit in Pasig. The turnover schedule is around late Q2 according to the sales person. This is okay, at least we will have around 7 months to prepare everything.
I am still worried because 2x already that I lost money when planning to buy a house. Hopefully, I get it right this time.
The model is 1-bedroom unit, but there's enough space in the ground floor for a small room. For the meantime, we are making it our study room until the (future) kid grows and needs his own room. The maid will stay in the living room, definitely. This means no living-in visitors for us for the next 5-8 years or so, until we get to afford to buy a bigger house.
There's also a possibility for us to transfer to bigger unit, 2-bedroom, 50-sqm unit. It's 400k more expensive (for now). We saw the model unit for this type, we didn't like it. Aside from having a bigger area, we find it very flat. The 2 rooms are beside the dining area and the living room.
Honestly, I don't have any plans beyond the wedding. And buying a house just came up when my fiancee and I were planning the wedding. I didn't even save any for the house. For some reason, the pieces simply fall into its proper places.
Until when, I don't know. If only I could consult the mahiwagang krystal ni Nostradamus.
Too much uncertainties.... And I like it! Of course, I am not sure if my fiancee likes it this way. We'll soon find out...
I am still worried because 2x already that I lost money when planning to buy a house. Hopefully, I get it right this time.
The model is 1-bedroom unit, but there's enough space in the ground floor for a small room. For the meantime, we are making it our study room until the (future) kid grows and needs his own room. The maid will stay in the living room, definitely. This means no living-in visitors for us for the next 5-8 years or so, until we get to afford to buy a bigger house.
There's also a possibility for us to transfer to bigger unit, 2-bedroom, 50-sqm unit. It's 400k more expensive (for now). We saw the model unit for this type, we didn't like it. Aside from having a bigger area, we find it very flat. The 2 rooms are beside the dining area and the living room.
Honestly, I don't have any plans beyond the wedding. And buying a house just came up when my fiancee and I were planning the wedding. I didn't even save any for the house. For some reason, the pieces simply fall into its proper places.
Until when, I don't know. If only I could consult the mahiwagang krystal ni Nostradamus.
Too much uncertainties.... And I like it! Of course, I am not sure if my fiancee likes it this way. We'll soon find out...
Friday, April 14, 2006
Yesterday, I brought my fiancee with me to check the site of the newly built condo building. The sales rep showed me the model units. It looked nice, of course the interior would cost you another quarter of a million just to have the looks you want.
The place is in Pasig, westbank side of the river if I am not mistaken. The neighbours are class d or less, but the units are cheap. So cheap that I am waiting for somebody to back out from the previous deal. I reserved for a 40sqm flat, the unit cost is almost a mil. The turn over is next year. But I am not yet sure if I can get the unit I want. Hopefully I will.The place is also nearby the office and the malls. So it's pretty convenient. There are several schools nearby, but if I like it for my kids would be another matter.
At least I have an agreement with my fiancee that the amortization will be taken from the wedding budget. As long as nobody gets sick, I should be able to afford it.Let's see after a month if I get that unit.
Let's see how it goes. I got burned once already.
The place is in Pasig, westbank side of the river if I am not mistaken. The neighbours are class d or less, but the units are cheap. So cheap that I am waiting for somebody to back out from the previous deal. I reserved for a 40sqm flat, the unit cost is almost a mil. The turn over is next year. But I am not yet sure if I can get the unit I want. Hopefully I will.The place is also nearby the office and the malls. So it's pretty convenient. There are several schools nearby, but if I like it for my kids would be another matter.
At least I have an agreement with my fiancee that the amortization will be taken from the wedding budget. As long as nobody gets sick, I should be able to afford it.Let's see after a month if I get that unit.
Let's see how it goes. I got burned once already.
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